Keeping Marriage Real | Can Ask Meh?

Is your marriage what you imagined it to be? Are you guilty of forgetting your anniversary? Do you often disagree with each other?
These are some of the questions that married couples answer on this episode of ‘Can Ask Meh?’.
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  • Our Grandfather Story
    Our Grandfather StoryRok temu

    Over the past 2 days, we collated questions you had for our profiles on Instagram. Here are four most popular questions. Read this thread for their replies! 😇 1. How do you know your partner is the one? 2. How to have good conversations? 3. How to keep your passion/ love alive after many years? 4. Currently seeing someone but unable to progress due to lockdown... any advice?

  • christispage


    5 miesięcy temu

    From my experience, I can say that sometimes, even if you do these things mentioned here by all of the beautiful couples (I know at least I did most of them with my ex), it just doesn't click. Some people are meant for each other, some just don't, as blunt as it may be, that's just how it is... All of the tips, as helpful & beautiful as they may be, they are merely general, and cannot apply to every single situation and every person... It was very good though of you to take the time to answer all of them, so thank you, and thank you for this sincere video you made (the couples & the producers). May you always be that happy & loved!!!

  • Singaporean Pride

    Singaporean Pride

    11 miesięcy temu

    The old lady has ij vibes

  • Camille Tan-Mahendran

    Camille Tan-Mahendran

    11 miesięcy temu

    Hello! I am Camille And my husband is Mahendran! We are the couple in an inter-racial and inter-religious marriage! Here are my answers! Sorry long winded! But I hope it helps! Q1: How do you know your partner is the one? - We just clicked! In every way! we had so much in common (also differences) but we were ready and willing to spend the rest of our lives together. We were just ready for each other. It’s not like the other relationships we had where we were still ‘testing’ out or ‘looking’ for the one. I knew he was the one when he met my parents and put in every effort to build a relationship with them, likewise for myself when I met his parents, all i wanted was to build a relationship with them. Q2: How to have good conversation? - When we first dated. We spoke about couple rules : never go to sleep without resolving any issues that affects either one of us inside. It may be issues between us or it could be work or friends, it could be anything. What I realise is that such rules is important as it reminds us to constantly communicate be it through text, email, phone or face to face. Always communicate and most importantly learn to listen. It is also important to know what both your language of love is, in that way you will learn how to communicate in ways that your partner feels love and appreciation. Q3: How to keep your passion/love alive after many years? - We dated for a year and now married for 6 years. How we keep our passion/ love alive is to have monthly date nights, yearly ‘honeymoons’ overseas without kiddos! Courtship is still important in marriage, little surprises and little things we do such as to show love through one another’s language of love is crucial. It is a conscious effort we have to make every single day to do at least one thing for each other. In times that we quarrel, we will always make up to each other the next day. We acknowledge that in every quarrel both of us are wrong in one way or another. Q4: currently seeing someone but unable to progress due to lock down, any advice? - Get gifts online and deliver to your special someone with a message! That’s what I’ll do! You can also do video calls, just constantly communicate!

  • Jeff Goh

    Jeff Goh

    Rok temu

    Hi ! I am the old Uncle army officer who wore two watches.As to the question CURRENTLY SEEING SOMEONE BUT UNABLE TO PROGRESS DUE TO LOCKDOWN...ANY ADVICE? Now is the BEST TIME to make progress by using technology to keep in touch.If you really like this SOMEONE your motivation will be very high! You will find creative ways to make progress.Opportunity is NOWHERE or OPPORTUNITY is NOW HERE! You will have to choose! Now is the best time to find more about him or her.Find out the favourite COLOUR,FAST FOOD.COMFORT FOOD,DESSERTS,ICE CREAM FLAVOUR, PIZZA,MOVIE TYPE E.g HORROR,ADVENTURE, HUMOUROUS etc,SPORTS,TV PROGRAMME.Do all this research NOW! And once the lock down is over and people are once again to meet, on the first date wear something that has the person's favourite colour,go to a movie that this someone likes and eat the food and dessert that this someone loves.I quarantee you that this someone will want to go on another date with you! Listen to this old Uncle!

  • Jeff Goh

    Jeff Goh

    Rok temu

    HI! I am old Baba Uncle who wears the Batik Shirt and two watches.As to the question HOW TO KEEP YOUR PASSION/LOVE ALIVE AFTER MANY YEARS? The answer is PASSION ! My wife and I have a PASSION for TRAVEL. The first time this old Uncle stepped into an airplane was when I was 31 years old to go on my honeymoon to LONDON! After this trip,I discovered something I really love to do and that is to Travel! And my wife had this passion too! We enjoy planning short trips to SE ASIAN COUNTRIES and long trips as well.Planning and travelling makes our life exciting.We have tried dancing.She is passionate but I am not.I tried to do it out of love,but after stepping on her toes many times, I gave up and she finally agree that her old man husband cannot dance if his life depends on it! Now that we are in the COVID 19 situation,we relive our travels by looking at our travel videos and photos and relived our memories,what we ate,what we saw,what we enjoyed,the fellow travellers we met,the wonderful experiences we had !

  • InBody Asia
    InBody Asia3 dni temu

    Such a good content!!! We are touched!

  • Jane Tay
    Jane Tay14 dni temu

    Bringing food from Changi to Jurong is the real dedication.

  • Stephanie
    Stephanie24 dni temu

    Best show i've ever seen. Thanks for the ideas, concepts, and to the all lovely couples here. You guys are amazing 😍

  • Jeremiah Li
    Jeremiah Li25 dni temu

    Love between one man and one woman is so amazing, especially in a marriage that is divine. True love mirrors God's love for us, can be seen, experienced and reflected in a marriage. This episode makes me realize a lot of things, to communicate, to forgive, to affirm, to hold, to support, to be there and to be a listening ear. Hope to see more of such series in time to come..

  • Jasper Low
    Jasper Low25 dni temu

    The polite iron informally hurry because toe mainly wipe a a hissing mouth. sore, furry furtive israel

  • huaze lei
    huaze lei26 dni temu

    omg the elderly asian couple is such an inspiration, in terms of how I would like my marriage to be like!!!

  • Nicole Ng
    Nicole Ng27 dni temu

    its so insightful to hear from different couples , not to mention the ending was really heartwarming

  • deya prayogi
    deya prayogi28 dni temu

    this video warms my heart.

  • Aini Ruhamaa
    Aini Ruhamaa29 dni temu


  • Sneha Kanta
    Sneha KantaMiesiąc temu

    So cute ❤️

  • Nisee Gurl
    Nisee GurlMiesiąc temu

    Their sharing of their experiences, secrets & tips aren't new (?) BUT AS ALWAYS, relevant and essential for every couple regardless of time & race. And as I've noticed, the older the relationship/couple, the wisest wisdoms they may share because they are tested and proven already.🤔

  • Im Kiyuzki
    Im Kiyuzki2 miesięcy temu

    People in relationships, take note about the *old married couple.* Sometimes it's okay to lose a fight and say sorry first. "I'm sorry, maybe you're right." It's not about whether you win or lose the fight, but how much u love them that u are willing to say sorry first.

  • Tom Stewart
    Tom Stewart2 miesięcy temu

    This was more personal than I thought it would be

  • mandi torrez
    mandi torrez2 miesięcy temu

    9:21 me and my husband do the same. If one is angry just keep quiet and wait until one cools down. You tend to say stupid things like that. Also saying thank you for little things and saying he did a good job washing the dishes, making the bed, cleaning etc. Makes him feel special. ☺

  • Selena Chiong Chin May
    Selena Chiong Chin May2 miesięcy temu

    why am I cryinggggggg

  • Hanamaki T
    Hanamaki T2 miesięcy temu

    i'm cryin while watching this

  • Anaha
    Anaha2 miesięcy temu

    13:58 14:27 I cry everytime

  • marhen dyah
    marhen dyah2 miesięcy temu

    Ku menangissss di bagian terakhir video

  • Ragad Nuaimi
    Ragad Nuaimi2 miesięcy temu

    Do part 2 plz 👌👌👌👌

  • Chocolateteddi
    Chocolateteddi2 miesięcy temu

    I left when I didn't see a black couple lmaooo

  • Doris Waddington
    Doris Waddington3 miesięcy temu

    Marriage is like ‘ have you fed the Guinea Pig?’ Or ‘ did you give the kids their lunch? - everyday things Lah!

  • Taty Avilez
    Taty Avilez3 miesięcy temu

    lloré! que buen vídeo!

  • S P
    S P3 miesięcy temu

    My relationship goal❤

  • annesabey
    annesabey3 miesięcy temu

    "My wife and my kids have their own whtsap group" "You're in the group what." "Not in that another group" BAHAHAHA... dad already left the group n we're living happier than before. Only mom as middle spokeperson whatever info from whatsap group.😂

  • WJ isme
    WJ isme3 miesięcy temu

    Wow that's so wholesome. Thank you for making this video! (from a single guy perspective)

  • Josephine Koh
    Josephine Koh3 miesięcy temu

    I really like n enjoy all episodes u guys produced. Some really moved me to tears and some really helped me to gain good insights to how strong people can really be when faced with very tough challenges in life. Amazing real life stories which I really like. Keep the good work going team! Looking forward to many more good episodes!! 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💪🏻💪🏻✌🏻✌🏻

  • Lil Fix
    Lil Fix3 miesięcy temu

    9:47 "No la you also have" hahah He caught that straight away, just look at her face when he says "No! Without my name" They are so cute! 😊

  • Charles Yap
    Charles Yap3 miesięcy temu

    Divorce rate is 30% of marriage rate in sg. Wake up guys

  • alvin ng
    alvin ng4 miesięcy temu

    Thank you MR Jeffrey

  • Thinker Jini띵커지니
    Thinker Jini띵커지니5 miesięcy temu

    We can infer the karma through our "destiny chart" to figure out whether u have strong | weak spouse star. Check it out to meet your soulmate! ❤️

  • tomris hak
    tomris hak5 miesięcy temu

    I have found this channel today and loved so much .

  • Martha Mozartha
    Martha Mozartha5 miesięcy temu

    Siapaaa yang kupas bawang nii.. matakuu banjiiiirr.. 😭..

  • YeahGamer 710
    YeahGamer 7105 miesięcy temu

    Good God, so sweet all these couples 💑

  • YY Tong
    YY Tong5 miesięcy temu

    Omg my parents hated each other. It’s heart warming to see positive cases. But can say for sure, marriage isn’t for everyone

  • first last
    first last5 miesięcy temu

    Cries in single

  • Heather Hargrave
    Heather Hargrave5 miesięcy temu

    I enjoyed this couple's cuteness when talking about their relationship. It reminded me of a youtube video that talks about couples and having financial discussions. the important part to relationships is to talk.

  • Ollo آلاء
    Ollo آلاء5 miesięcy temu

    this is my second time watching this video, It's still very beautiful and important. every couple affected me positively. Thank you for all!!

  • Syuk Ablil
    Syuk Ablil5 miesięcy temu

    why am I crying?

  • Moomoo
    Moomoo5 miesięcy temu

    this video is the best in singapore. some say in batam also! wait... PCK?! :D

  • Kaye Uson
    Kaye Uson5 miesięcy temu

    The Malaysian Husband's vow was so honest. I am crying at 1am right now.

  • Nadya Natalia
    Nadya Natalia6 miesięcy temu

    their love is pure and real.

  • Fariha Mohamed Hilmy
    Fariha Mohamed Hilmy6 miesięcy temu

    So sweet

  • Doris Chong
    Doris Chong6 miesięcy temu

    The ojiichan (grandpa) in the video makes me wanna call him OPPPPPPPPA. He's such a sweet and lovely man. The way he looked at his wife every time she talked made me go awwwww

  • Hemalatha Selvaraja
    Hemalatha Selvaraja6 miesięcy temu

    To the Chinese uncle and aunty, I love you so much! ❤️

  • Savenia Melinda
    Savenia Melinda6 miesięcy temu

    Watching this makes me want to believe in marriage :””)

  • Jia Hui Ang
    Jia Hui Ang6 miesięcy temu

    I like this video! it is so sweet and cute :) Is it possible to have an episode on homosexual as well? I have a few friends who are in this minority group and will like to know more.

  • Lee Young
    Lee Young6 miesięcy temu

    Thanks to Dr. Uguel for bringing my ex back to me. My girlfriend left me for no reason for almost seven months I did everything possible to bring her back but nothing work out for me until I met a friend of mine who introduced me to Dr.Uguel that have help so many people that has relationship or marriage problems. I sent a mail to the email address he gave me and the spell caster responded and tell me not to worry that my ex will come back to me after 3 days. But hopefully my girlfriend comes back to me with much of love and affection. If you have any relationship or marriage problems contact him for solutions to all your problems. His email or WhatsApp number +2347056683626

  • LMSO
    LMSO6 miesięcy temu

    I found the couple with different religions so inspiring. My S/O and I hopes to one day work together as one unit and overcome those challenges.

  • GTODiablo
    GTODiablo6 miesięcy temu

    So beautiful. The finer things in life is your partner in crime 💘

  • koketso mogwera
    koketso mogwera6 miesięcy temu

    I am learning so much about relationships from this video. It is amazing.

  • dauntless bonita
    dauntless bonita6 miesięcy temu

    Love this kind of video. Became emotional hearing the couples' response to each questions

  • The Family Room
    The Family Room6 miesięcy temu

    Just discovered this channel and its🔥🔥🔥

  • MayBee L
    MayBee L6 miesięcy temu

    The old couple is a good one.. respect.

  • sayali karvir
    sayali karvir6 miesięcy temu

    Alice and Jeffery were so nice and happy together.

  • Lillian
    Lillian6 miesięcy temu

    This "maybe you are right" allowance is a WISDOM

  • Marsya Azahari
    Marsya Azahari6 miesięcy temu

    I cried watching this 😭😭

  • Sophia Wang
    Sophia Wang6 miesięcy temu

    "Texting sorts of helps............Thanks to WhatsApp" *Not sponsored by WhatsApp*

  • Anjali
    Anjali6 miesięcy temu

    Videos like these indeed give people hope lol

  • cristheoust
    cristheoust6 miesięcy temu

    This is a very wonderful episode.

  • Jérsica Oksana
    Jérsica Oksana6 miesięcy temu

    I loveee the old Chinese couple! So wise

  • Tifi Ayiti
    Tifi Ayiti7 miesięcy temu

    Literally made me laugh that I had to rewind the older couple when he said his wife told him “excuse me I’m not your soldier” 🤣 loved them 🥰 want to see a whole segment💞 really appreciate the love between the couple in matching shirts..

  • Luna Key
    Luna Key7 miesięcy temu

    This is what great love and good relationship is. Companion, trying ur best, bending and growing, understanding, supporting, providing, respect, and harmony

  • Luna Key
    Luna Key7 miesięcy temu

    One superficial thing i learned: little ugly ppl make a great partner

  • Bernice Chia
    Bernice Chia7 miesięcy temu

    That's very true. Love is not about the looks. Marriage is about compromise. And any disagreement or grudges towards your partner must be communicated upfront immediately. As Asians, we do not practice saying ' I love you' everyday. Actions speak louder then words but it will be nice sometimes to hear the word I love you from your husband when you are feeling tired or stressful.

  • Mariana O
    Mariana O7 miesięcy temu

    This video really blessed me, and I'm not even close to a relationship 😂 Shout out to the interracial couple! That's how you do it. All the others are just as amazing.

  • jessicaaudate
    jessicaaudate7 miesięcy temu

    That was beautiful 👫

  • Matse Desiree
    Matse Desiree7 miesięcy temu

    "we need to show our children that marriage is good... Look at mom and dad" Who's chopping onions😭

  • Jo T
    Jo T7 miesięcy temu

    This is very nice. The first thing I learned about marriage was to flow with my other half. Tolerate the best you can, more love and patience.❤️

  • Tan Johnny
    Tan Johnny7 miesięcy temu

    OGS thanks, that's a good video, I'm married and that's a good mirror to reflex on. Keep it up!

  • Bethlish Torres
    Bethlish Torres7 miesięcy temu


  • Star Light
    Star Light7 miesięcy temu

    What a beautiful episode and this got me in tears :')

  • Rose Nanda
    Rose Nanda7 miesięcy temu

    This video is worth a thousand books on marriage. The best thing I've watched in a long time. As someone who's about to get married soon to a man I love, I've still been getting anxious about whether or not we are the right partner for each other.. This video helped me calm down. So relatable.. As if my issues are not unique, it's universel.. It happens and it is normal. Sometimes it gets really difficult even if we love the person like crazy. It's all part of the journey. Also, the older couple talking about Love Languages is lovely. I hope it introduces more people to the love language. That has been one of the best books I've read on marriage. Anyway, thank you for making this. Will keep coming back to it over time.

  • Leo
    Leo7 miesięcy temu

    Modern relationship is when something out of order, throw it instead of finding way to fix it. Traditional relationship is when something out of order, tahan and fix it , if can't then throw it.

  • YouYou


    7 miesięcy temu

    It’s because we have so many options. We can date a boyfriend/girlfriend easier with smartphones, laptop...sns... If our partner is not good enough, we can search and meet new people to date.

  • Shafira Annida
    Shafira Annida7 miesięcy temu

    there's just so much love in this video and i cried like a baby 😭💕

  • Michaela Oren
    Michaela Oren7 miesięcy temu

    I want to remember that arguing over text. I think that's brilliant and really good for a person with my personality.

  • Valeria Carrasco
    Valeria Carrasco7 miesięcy temu

    Omg “im a practical girl” hahaha love that couple

  • Jyo Sri
    Jyo Sri7 miesięcy temu

    Ayyye, that army captain and his wife are so cute and funny and complete Uff And that advice on not comparing , just looking at the good in the person and family you are married to, it's pure gold All you restless beings,pay attention.

  • Di Di
    Di Di7 miesięcy temu

    But can you do polygamy marriage next? Such an interesting topic. Would like to know how they survive as a harmony marriage

  • Simon Montgomery
    Simon Montgomery7 miesięcy temu

    I guess I was right all along. Singapore is expensive not because of the high numerical figures, and not from any physical lack but the lack of reciprocal humour, as if that makes the Dollar strong. We'll be neighbors eventually. What more can you ask for? Let me make one simple thing perfectly clear. You may think a maid's room in Pasir Panjang is set aside for the scrap but I had the best time of my life there. If you cannot be happy with a simple HDB and use that as ammunition against your neighbor, you will never feel happy in anything larger. The proof is in the viewing. I will not let "educated" Singapore take another innocent soul down to the rat race hell you demons have made for them.

  • Anna Putri Ahmad
    Anna Putri Ahmad7 miesięcy temu

    I am preparing myself to live my life being single but after watching this... idk... maybe if i meet someone on the way... i'll think about that later lah...

  • Robert Wang
    Robert Wang7 miesięcy temu

    This is so beautiful...

  • James Cook
    James Cook7 miesięcy temu

    Who says 2 0 1 7???

    SHiRAZY7 miesięcy temu

    Love from Iran. Beautiful classy people 💜💠

  • EngPMgt
    EngPMgt7 miesięcy temu

    I really like the older couples 😍

  • Julia L.B
    Julia L.B7 miesięcy temu

    People, really do not forget these wise words of the old couple... really respect elders.

  • jelu bee
    jelu bee7 miesięcy temu

    I can't imagine getting married

  • Gwendolyne Ayiera
    Gwendolyne Ayiera7 miesięcy temu

    For the first time in history, I've managed to watch the whole video before proceeding to the comments 😊

  • insku95
    insku957 miesięcy temu

    Whatsapp saves our relationship too 😂

  • Irain dura
    Irain dura7 miesięcy temu

    im crying hear their vows.. 😭

  • i_stole_jimins_jams _93
    i_stole_jimins_jams _937 miesięcy temu

    I love what the Muslim couple said about anger. When one is fire the other should be water. If both are fire it can burn down a house.

  • She's Shelby
    She's Shelby7 miesięcy temu

    Why am I crying? T.T.....

  • Egidius Elian Rama
    Egidius Elian Rama7 miesięcy temu

    Thank you for this heart-warming content. Love it!

  • Dewi Rigsby
    Dewi Rigsby7 miesięcy temu

    Bitter & sweet of marriage couples💕 These beautiful stories bring tears to my eyes. Meeting the right one is definitely very important, bcs you going to spend the rest of your life with him/her 💕

  • Em Olv
    Em Olv7 miesięcy temu

    this makes my heart so happy.

  • Deepa Ragland
    Deepa Ragland7 miesięcy temu

    Sooo sweet

  • Umi Sarah
    Umi Sarah7 miesięcy temu

    omg how i love that soldier man 😂😂😂 he's so funny and his wife is sooo fierce 😂😂 and they're so lovely 🤗

  • Miriam Watt
    Miriam Watt7 miesięcy temu


  • amerryone
    amerryone7 miesięcy temu

    Wholeheartedly agree with to 7:10 that is how I feel about my partner!

  • JP
    JP7 miesięcy temu

    That multi racial couple is goalz!