Finding Love in an Arranged Marriage | Can Ask Meh?

Were you forced to marry a stranger? Do you believe in the idea of the one? Have you thought of divorce? Hear from these arranged marriage couples on how they stayed happily in love on this episode of Can Ask Meh?
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  • Our Grandfather Story
    Our Grandfather Story11 miesięcy temu

    WATCH NEXT: In Season 4 of Can Ask Meh?, we spoke to married couples to find out the joys and struggles of marriage.

  • Kathryne Vicencio

    Kathryne Vicencio

    Miesiąc temu

    @Latesha Krstic Damn! Took roughly 20 mins but it reallyworked!!

  • Latesha Krstic

    Latesha Krstic

    Miesiąc temu

    dont know if anyone cares at all but last night I hacked my friends Facebook account using Siczine. Cant link here so search for it on google if you care

  • Beth Olive-Horton

    Beth Olive-Horton

    2 miesięcy temu

    OK let me call him and see if he can get it to it to be a good time for me to get yryrrryrrry

  • Berenice Gomez
    Berenice Gomez2 dni temu

    I LOVE LOVE ❤️

  • mankind36
    mankind3617 dni temu

    I personally knew Ah Heng (Xing). Great to see him and his wife featured here!

  • Jasper Low
    Jasper Low26 dni temu

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  • Jasmine Yun Xie
    Jasmine Yun XieMiesiąc temu

    I came here to get married not to go back hahah. so true though

  • Nisee Gurl
    Nisee GurlMiesiąc temu

    It seems, the simple mindedness of the people in the yesteryears, made their relationship successful. Unlike today's era, it seems, people are more complicated in their personalities and likes. Thus, manifesting in their choices & actions and eventually in their relationships. The more complicated a person is, the more his/her relationship will be.🤔

  • Manuel gra
    Manuel gra2 miesięcy temu


  • Diego YosBen
    Diego YosBen2 miesięcy temu

    Hehehehe.... This report seems to be parcialized. Its like saying all love marriages end in divorce. Which is not true

  • JiuYe玖爷
    JiuYe玖爷2 miesięcy temu

    I can understand all three languages (I’m Malaysian) but I’m still reading the subs 🤣

  • ANU
    ANU2 miesięcy temu


  • Freya Soleil
    Freya Soleil2 miesięcy temu

    The Indian couple tho! The woman was wearing black top and gray bottom while it's the reverse for her husband. So cute❤

  • Shachi Patel
    Shachi Patel3 miesięcy temu

    Widow grandma's every sentence is quotable! She is more "open minded" than some people quarter her age!

  • Ss Escobar
    Ss Escobar4 miesięcy temu

    The nerv on the chinese lady to say he not romantic.

  • Amala Dinesh
    Amala Dinesh4 miesięcy temu

    i think the westerners need to understand that asian people believe in one man one woman that's why their marriages are so successful

  • ʙᴜɴʙᴜɴᴍᴇʟ


    2 miesięcy temu

    You are sooo wrong dude.

  • Karenswalk
    Karenswalk5 miesięcy temu

    The Indian couple look so good together!

  • Kiara Sharma
    Kiara Sharma5 miesięcy temu

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  • Ervans Irawan
    Ervans Irawan5 miesięcy temu

    cute couples :)

  • Janie de Medeiros
    Janie de Medeiros5 miesięcy temu

    Yes, NO THANKS, never again although truly inspiring personal stories.

  • Candy Yummy
    Candy Yummy6 miesięcy temu

    they seem to be more in love than most couple btw!

  • Park Yeol Dobi
    Park Yeol Dobi6 miesięcy temu

    all this time, I thought this only exists in aus boohoo

  • Threambaka Rajesh
    Threambaka Rajesh6 miesięcy temu

    most indian arranged marriages nowadays have people who are really compatible with each other unlike the traditional sense of arranged marriage now its become much more lax and free. like nowadays, you first are connected through some common friend or something, then you will ask about the other person and see their picture and stuff like that. once that happens they meet with their family and then the families leave them together to talk and get to know each other. (almost like a blind date) after this there is usually like a week in which both sides will say yes or no (decided by the girl or boy). if both of them are saying yes then their marriage is said to be set. Now the couple can spend like time talking to each other texting maybe going on dates and stuff depending on their family beliefs. they will then have their engagement (usually atleast 1 month after both sides said yes but it can be up to 6 months later). after the engagement the families are usually more willing to let their children meet up and go on dates and stuff. during this time they get to know each other and are usually allowed to break the engagement if they really want to. then in 0.5- 8 months their wedding will take place. the freedom given varies between each family and the time between each of these are not set in any way. this was quite long with a lot of grammatical errors but i hope it changes your opinion on arranged marriages because most people arent forced into them. key term most because there are always people who like to stick to the more traditional practices.

  • PaulSimon BehindtheYellowLine
    PaulSimon BehindtheYellowLine6 miesięcy temu

    what a beautiful beautiful beautiful episode

  • mspenelusuk yeah
    mspenelusuk yeah6 miesięcy temu

    Ahh my heart is so happy seeing this

  • Tiny Home Series
    Tiny Home Series6 miesięcy temu

    “After 40 years of marriage, haven’t received a blade of grass or flower” 😂😂😂 so cute

  • n0hara
    n0hara6 miesięcy temu

    a total ripoff off the american version but still cute

  • Ijk Lmn
    Ijk Lmn7 miesięcy temu

    They are so wise 😍 I wish this generation had the same thought! 😔

  • ElectroAndCake
    ElectroAndCake7 miesięcy temu

    I think there is nothing wrong with an arranged marriage if both people want it. Please don't confuse with forced marriage ! Im from the west where this is seen ast totally weird but I think this concept has many advantages. You can state your desires and flaws to the matchmaker and they will select you a partner with similar life goals and character compatible to yours. Instead of marrying someone out of pure passion and then he wants kids and you dont. Or he/she wants to travel or work or over the world and you want to stay put. Or live in different cities. Or have totally different view on gender roles . Of course people can ask all these questions on their own. Its a responsible thing. But how many people in love actually do? Untill its too late ? Of course of this arranged marriage is done for money or for gaining power for the family- im totally against it. But if its arranged with care and the interest of happiness of the couple. - why not ?

  • Aeria Aphroditê
    Aeria Aphroditê7 miesięcy temu

    Awww...The Chinese couple made me cry when they said that in the next life, they would still marry each other 🥺❤ Plus I like that they're wearing matching colours 🥰

  • Rush
    Rush7 miesięcy temu

    The video kinda shows the benefits of arranged marriage. Without the high expectations of love at first sight and extremely romantic gestures, you get a more stable and happy marriage. It gives them the space to know this one thing: *Love isn’t about fining the perfect person for you, it’s about finding a good person, and decide Int to just love them.*

  • brit
    brit7 miesięcy temu

    9:34 where the subtitles

  • abrilcares
    abrilcares7 miesięcy temu

    Idk why but I'm just in my 20's but this made me soooo emotional, I cried.

  • Margaux Gadiane
    Margaux Gadiane7 miesięcy temu

    im sad about arrange marriage but im happy seeing them like that.

  • Evelin C.R
    Evelin C.R7 miesięcy temu


  • says jeje
    says jeje8 miesięcy temu

    i gone through arranged marriage in 2013 😁

  • I miss 2019
    I miss 20198 miesięcy temu

    All I know is, I wish I chose arranged marriage instead. I’d probably be a lot happier now.

  • Laura W
    Laura W8 miesięcy temu

    The wedding pics at the end 🥺😍 loved that

  • Asma Fithriyatul Hanifah
    Asma Fithriyatul Hanifah8 miesięcy temu

    My parents had an arranged marriage, 25 years and they're still looks as romantic as ever I can tell they really love each other

  • elise s
    elise s8 miesięcy temu

    So good

  • Samuel Augier
    Samuel Augier8 miesięcy temu

    These couples are truly inspirations for nowadays couples! Work on yourselves first!

  • Mouse Kander
    Mouse Kander8 miesięcy temu

    The Indian couple - he gives me 2020 Steve carrell vibes. Zaddy!

  • ahappyacident
    ahappyacident8 miesięcy temu

    If I get put an arranged marriage, and we don't fall in love, I'm not marrying them

  • Trini sharon
    Trini sharon8 miesięcy temu

    I love that the old Asian couple colour coordinated!! 🌺✨

  • You Name Me
    You Name Me8 miesięcy temu

    The muslim lady is so beautiful Masha Allah!😍

  • Archana V Bhat
    Archana V Bhat8 miesięcy temu

    I teared up a bit when the purple hijab auntie was alone in the before and after pics but i realize that her husband is alive within her memories and she still loves him 😔💜

  • 不告訴你我是誰--
    不告訴你我是誰--8 miesięcy temu

    this is so wholesome.

  • tattoosthetic
    tattoosthetic8 miesięcy temu

    *istg if my future husband does not vibe with me like the Indian couple,,,,,,,,,,,I'm filing a divorce.*

  • Laijoy
    Laijoy8 miesięcy temu

    The Chinese auntie is adorable

  • J C
    J C8 miesięcy temu

    I super love this video. I hope, younger people now a days, would get some lessons here about marriage life. Commitment, patience and respect is really the key for a successful marriage.

  • MinimalisticJoy
    MinimalisticJoy8 miesięcy temu

    They are all so sweet!

  • Vision Dream 127 U
    Vision Dream 127 U8 miesięcy temu

    My grandparent was also married through arranged marriage...They have Tom&Jerry relationship😂 but still take care of each other for about 50 years now🥺 I'm thinking of arranged marriage too if I cannot find "someone" 🤣

  • AL Gonsalves
    AL Gonsalves8 miesięcy temu

    the indian couple and the chinese couple were both so cute n loving

  • mEmmE 5*5*5*
    mEmmE 5*5*5*8 miesięcy temu

    I fully Muslim lady and the feelings got across

  • FA AA
    FA AA8 miesięcy temu

    "There will always be arguments but if you understand and tolerate each other then everything will be fine. Nobody's perfect, right?"

  • FA AA
    FA AA8 miesięcy temu

    Interviewer: tell me what it was like after marriage The wives: *he never does any housework*

  • Mandy Luider
    Mandy Luider8 miesięcy temu

    Even though divorce is a rightful thing to have in how we live our lives these days, i also think that we as the latest generations have become so focused on the individual we even forget to love our partners, and end up in divorce quicker. The love older couples talk about a lot of the time has such a different meaning. Even though not everything is not always uphill, love is about sacrifice and care. Needless to say i dont mean that you should never divorce, many reasons that you should definitely leave. But i try and embrace the way these couples think and take the time to appreciate what my partner does for me.

  • Isk
    Isk8 miesięcy temu

    Some of the subtitles are wrong but lovely film

  • Le Mai Anh
    Le Mai Anh8 miesięcy temu

    This is biased. You only picked happy couples that have arranged marriage. What about the wrong matches. How does arrange marriage make them feel? Include them too.

  • Bebe o
    Bebe o8 miesięcy temu

    For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him.Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God.And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil.For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed.But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God.” Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life; whoever does not obey the Son shall not see life, but the wrath of God remains on him. But as for the cowardly, the faithless, the detestable, as for murderers, the sexually immoral, sorcerers, idolaters, and all liars, their portion will be in the lake that burns with fire and sulfur, which is the second death.”

  • Hopiiihope Jeykeheyy
    Hopiiihope Jeykeheyy8 miesięcy temu

    Am I the only one who’s ok if their parents arrange marriage them? Movies portray it too negatively

  • damya insyirah
    damya insyirah8 miesięcy temu

    There's a big difference between forced and arranged marriage!

  • Bruce Forte
    Bruce Forte8 miesięcy temu

    The chinese couple... good lord. It's like she can't contain her love, but she still nags him, but she can't contain it, and he's just smirking all quiet like "yeah, that babe is my wife". That's an aesthetic. And the other couple are so charismatic, the both of them.

  • Hoshihona Saneha
    Hoshihona Saneha8 miesięcy temu

    matchmaking was probably like Tinder without the app

  • Annlt220 T
    Annlt220 T8 miesięcy temu

    “Marriage should be the ultimate goal.” Yes, we find more of ourselves in the other.

  • Annlt220 T
    Annlt220 T8 miesięcy temu

    I love the before and after pic! ❤️❤️

  • Vikz Lal
    Vikz Lal8 miesięcy temu

    I have to say the Indian couple looked like they had a love marriage

  • Matt Leong
    Matt Leong8 miesięcy temu

    Although this video protray arranged marriage in a positive view , we still can't ignore the fact they are some that went on to live unhappy lives, And yes I meant arranged and not forced marriage. Arranged marriage in pretex is parents choosing ur future spouse and I can say yes or no, but the problem is that it's a fine line between arranged and forced, it might appear as arranged marriage but it is in actuality a forced marriage becuz of the reason 1. Bring dishonor to the family, this is a common trope protray in old Chinese Indian and Malay drama but it still holds true today due to the inevitable human nature of gossip, humans like to gossip and a person who rejected marriage will spark a whole variety of gossip 2. Strong and strict parental figures, the standrd asian tiger parents stereotype, it's true in alot if eastern country to this day and the son's or daughter are too scared to go against them 3.unfavorable in the future, this targets the mentality of the person being arranged married itself, they might see themself as being unwanted in the future if they rejected a marriage once, just like how a survey in Malaysia reveal that most Malaysian will prefer a partner that has not been divorced or rejected a marriage.. not even mention those stubborn aunties in all culture, the KARENs who will find every opportunity to judge people This conclude my thoughts and I hope people could understand both spectrum and understand where people are coming from, a video producer can let u see what they want to showbut not the truth

  • thriftedsweater
    thriftedsweater8 miesięcy temu

    Wow, I really respect the indian guy of asking her if she wants to go back that far into the marriage, I think every woman and man should have that option in an arranged marriage that far in.

  • 7 Dreamies
    7 Dreamies8 miesięcy temu

    That muslim lady is my role model!

  • Kate Tiglao
    Kate Tiglao8 miesięcy temu

    i remember on the wings of love (OTWOL) by JaDine

  • ni qui
    ni qui8 miesięcy temu

    I love how the couples' outfits were coordinated lol

  • Charmaine Eng
    Charmaine Eng9 miesięcy temu

    makcik is so pure and lovely and i want to hug her

  • Yato
    Yato9 miesięcy temu

    ''In the past, people would never get divorced no matter how much they suffered, they would think of their family and children.'' A lot of meanings kids nowadays should grasp from this.

  • ʙᴜɴʙᴜɴᴍᴇʟ


    2 miesięcy temu


  • Anka Jagoda
    Anka Jagoda9 miesięcy temu

    Its a little sad because the Chinese couple seems to get along fine, but she's basically settled for someone she 'tolerates'. She thinks he's okay and doesn't mind him because they don't argue. Reminds me of my grandparents - they always say they 'tolerate' each other, not 'love'.

  • Asli K.
    Asli K.9 miesięcy temu

    That indian man looked like my turkish grandfather when he was young 😂

  • Matthew Nel
    Matthew Nel9 miesięcy temu

    Dear friends I hope that you are doing well amidst the current crisis. I want to share with you the gospel of Jesus Christ, the best news you will ever hear. The biggest problem that mankind has is that God is just. Now this may not seem problematic, until we realise our spiritual condition. God has set a standard, His moral law, that must be obeyed to perfection if one is to enter heaven. The smallest offense against His Law is to be guilty of breaking the entire Law (James 2:10). It is easy for us to see that we have broken His Law, given in the 10 Commandments. One of them is you shall not lie. If you have ever told one lie, then God sees you as a liar. If you have ever stolen anything, irrespective of it's value, He sees you as a thief. If you have ever blasphemed His holy name, He sees you as a blasphemer. The 7th Commandment says, "You shall not commit adultery." But Jesus said whoever looks with lust commits adultery in their heart (Matthew 5:28). Examine yourself: Have you broken these commandments? If you have, you stand guilty before a holy, holy, holy God. This is a terrible position to be in, as the Bible warns that God will forever punish guilty sinners in an awful place called hell, the lake of fire. (Revelation 21:8). The thought of this happening to you horrifies me, and I do not want you to end up there. Now since God is just, He cannot simply forgive our sins. One of the common lies is that by our good works we can earn our way to God. Imagine standing in a court of law. A murderer stands before a judge, guilty and condemned. He says, "Judge, I know I'm a murderer, but I gave to charity and helped children at the orphanage." A just judge will ignore this man's pleas, and sentence him based on his crimes, not his good works. God is much like that, only He is far more thorough in His justice. He will judge unbelievers based on their sins, not good works. He will look at every thought, word, and deed on the day of judgment, which is a fearful thing. The only hope we as sinful humanity have is that God would show us mercy. This was made possible by Jesus Christ and His death on the cross. Jesus is the Son of God, who came into this world through the Virgin Mary, both fully God and fully man, and He lived a perfect sinless life. He perfectly fulfilled all the moral obligations of God's Law, never once breaking a commandment or committing a sin. When Jesus went to the cross, our sins were placed upon Him, and God the Father poured out His wrath meant for us on Jesus Christ. Jesus died, and three days later, He rose from the grave, defeating death and making it possible for us to be reconciled to God. It's like we were standing in God's courtroom with a fine too great for us to pay. We broke God's Law, but Jesus stepped in and paid our fine! Now God can legally declare us righteous. In order for you to be forgiven of your sins and receive everlasting life, you must repent of all your sins, which means to turn away from them and not continue in them, and trust alone in Jesus for your salvation. When you do that, God will grant you everlasting life as a free gift! Then read the Bible daily and obey it Jesus does not call you to live an easy life. Persecution, trials and temptation will come, but God will help you to endure all of them if you trust Him May God lead you to find everlasting life this day

  • Lima
    Lima9 miesięcy temu

    People get forced marriages and arrange marriages confused so much. Arrange marriages you get to have a choice on whether or not you both agree to marry eachother, forced marriages dont. And most, if not all, of arranged marriages usually end up with the couple being very happy and in love. I wish more people would understood that.

  • Yoongis Cat
    Yoongis Cat9 miesięcy temu

    Thats why forced marriage AUs in books must be filled with curiosity love more than hatred then love in the end which is cliche...

  • Nadhira Satria
    Nadhira Satria9 miesięcy temu

    I want the muslim malay lady to be my grandma

  • Zahra Ramzan
    Zahra Ramzan9 miesięcy temu

    The lady in the purple scarf is so adorable. My heart just filled with love and respect for her.

  • Nobody
    Nobody9 miesięcy temu

    *REMEMBER* an arranged marriage does *NOT* equal a forced marriage.Think of it like this 2 people’s can already know each other and the family’s thinks they would be a nice couple,the 2 people agree or 2 families make 2 people know each other and then get married a forced and they want to.In both situations the people are OK with the marriage.A forced marriage is when one or both of the people don’t want to get married but they are forced to cooperate.I know that arranged marriages can lead to a happy marriage becuse my parents were had an arranged marriage and me and my family are happy :) Also It took me forever to spell marriage correctly.

  • Ivana Kalyana
    Ivana Kalyana9 miesięcy temu

    Meanwhile in today's matchmaking, all we do is to swipe left. Or swipe right and no talk. Or talk then ghosting.

  • Daisy dupe
    Daisy dupe9 miesięcy temu

    The Chinese couple remind me of my parents my father ain’t romantic and until a friend reminds him or tells him to bring flowers to my mom.

  • Angie G
    Angie G9 miesięcy temu

    The Indian dude reminds me of my dad haha (his personality I mean)

  • chai araneta
    chai araneta9 miesięcy temu

    I will not eat meat for a partner.

  • homielovie
    homielovie9 miesięcy temu

    So sweet!

  • Gerlinde
    Gerlinde9 miesięcy temu

    I appreciate the side taken that arranged marriage is different from forced marriage and that you should be happy with what you have. It is very uplifting and peacefull message. However, don't forget it's only one side of arranged marriage. There is a huge survival's bias here. I guess the show isn't made for participants who have a very sad story. For example, you cannot see from a photo and first impression what someone's whole personality is. Maybe he or she is very violent or manipulative. They only show good caractered people here. Which is very lovely to see, but not showing the whole picture.

  • GCA-.-
    GCA-.-9 miesięcy temu

    No matter what i was smiling throughout the whole video it's really cute and my expectations has increased.....with my other half Thanks for that😶✌️😗

  • Omandita4
    Omandita49 miesięcy temu

    I think I understand why arranged marriages have a good reputation: because both the personal relationship and formal commitment start approximately at the same time. You get to know your spouse without the baggage of a shared past or the anxiety of whether marriage will result. So in a secure state such as this, you don't project as much judgment, worry, or distrust onto the other person.

  • marianne lawrence
    marianne lawrence9 miesięcy temu

    It's nice to see oldies time love is so appreciated unlike these days it's so not natural.

  • Leven Lyfe
    Leven Lyfe9 miesięcy temu

    I like how all these ppl say,"I have a friend do you want him/her", like going to the husband/wife market, it's like saying, "yesssssss that one there,the short brown haired one with the gimpy leg" 😂😂🤣🤣🤣

  • Nandhitha Ü
    Nandhitha Ü9 miesięcy temu

    Literally every Indian first gen family HAHA

  • ツh o n e y p e a r
    ツh o n e y p e a r9 miesięcy temu

    I live for the Indian couple

  • Umm Ibraheem
    Umm Ibraheem9 miesięcy temu

    Im a western Girl who choose a aranged marriage, we met twice and Got married. 7 years later and soon 3 kids, im so happy with my decision!

  • Saron Midelin
    Saron Midelin9 miesięcy temu

    i love this kind of videos..we now live in a world where there's so many bad things and love is hard to get.. but seeing all this couples give me hope.. i hope they all live happily with each other until their hairs turn white..

  • summer
    summer9 miesięcy temu

    My parents did not have arranged marriage. He presented her so many chocolate bars until she agreed. Now they are married since over 50 years

  • MyLoveForRoséIsAsStrongAsHerScalp Uwu
    MyLoveForRoséIsAsStrongAsHerScalp Uwu9 miesięcy temu

    The Indian couple 😍 . Sweetest ❤️

  • Margaret Wambui6419
    Margaret Wambui64199 miesięcy temu

    I like the lady in the purple hijab, she said that don't tell people your problems cause they are yours, only you can fix your problems. This is too much wisdom for my mental capacity.

  • Julia Catherine
    Julia Catherine9 miesięcy temu

    When the woman whose husband died said she remembered him when the family was together and hugging each other... I may have teared up a bit.

  • Lim Rosemary
    Lim Rosemary10 miesięcy temu

    the chinese lady leading the show ya .. so much for being traditional .., lol

  • Lim Rosemary
    Lim Rosemary10 miesięcy temu

    the fact they willing to do a Q & A together must b they are still satisfied ea other