Survivors Of Sexual Violence | Can Ask Meh?

Were you asking for it? Did you report it? Are you sure it happened? Singapore is safe.
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  • Our Grandfather Story
    Our Grandfather StoryRok temu

    If you or anyone you know needs help, you may reach out for support: Sexual Assault Care Centre 6779 0282 (Mon-Fri, 10am-10pm) Oogachaga 6226 2002 (Tue, Wed, Thu: 7pm-10pm; Sat: 2pm-5pm) #AimForZeroSG

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    2 miesięcy temu

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    Loser Boi

    8 miesięcy temu


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  • joanne ying
    joanne ying10 dni temu

    It really hits me when Devika said " I felt constant pressure to have to prove my existence." I'm not a survival of sexual assault, but I was once in an emotionally abusive relationship. I was 16 and in short after the breakup, I worked on regaining everything, confidence, self-esteem, studies etc. But ppl would just look at me differently, bcuz I chose to have a relationship during my studies and I failed it. But when they found out I was in a relationship, they didnt try to get me out of one bcuz of the fact that I was abused, but because they felt that a student shouldn't be in relationship. And through that process, with constant pressure from all parties, I basically had my worst time with full denial and suicide ideations. Until now, I've have tried my best to move on, I have worked so hard facing daily challenges in my life, and I finally found someone that would respect me, and care for me as me myself, with uncountable empathy, yet they did not trust me. Becuz my performance was not as good as before, I'm not as confident and cheerful as before, and I'm not financially independent. Even if I try to convince myself logically, I would feel as if I'm owing them something that I need to prove them I'm worthwhile to have someone dears to me only when I'm successful. Academically or others. I understand that they have this behavior bcuz they are worried. But, when they couldn't acknowledge my feelings, then what else can I do?

  • Hera Blanche
    Hera Blanche12 dni temu

    Feel your pain so relatable. My eyes welled up seeing the guy get upset x

  • ML L
    ML L13 dni temu

    I hope these courageous guests have attained the much-needed peace fully by now. No one deserves all that you have gone through, and it is surely not your fault at all.

  • innocent soul
    innocent soul15 dni temu

    "waking up every day can be a struggle" to those who that every day i appreciate you and just to tell u that you r the most strongest person everyone good job

  • Broken Heart
    Broken Heart23 dni temu

    I can relate where we just want to forget and assume that it never happened cause we didnt want that happen cause we just had no control to stop the person :) its so traumatizing. You couldnt tell to everyone cause youre just afraid of being blamed cause you put yourself in that situation. Ive been in this situation for the past few years and it sucks. Particularly when the one who sexually assaulted you was your own ex bf. People will think that we made up stories. Ive been blaming my self cause i put myself in that situation and im so depressed right now cause once I opened up to that one person that I expected would understand, but he just told me "i have no responsibility to help you. I cant help you with your problem" . Im so upset and depressed

  • Silber Wölfin
    Silber Wölfin27 dni temu

    Nobody. Is. Asking. For. Sexual. Violence.

  • K P
    K P29 dni temu

    My lecturer abused me and demanded that I sleep with him or I'll have to "face consequences" in class. I was fine to face whatever consequences they might be; yet he came to the dorm and raped me one evening. He is now the Dean in the School of Psychology and Centre for Human Rights in a prestigious university. This is the sick world we live in.

  • R G
    R G29 dni temu

    I related sm to their stories, specially Devika’s. I have not shared this with anyone ever. I was around 6 years old when I was raped by a family friend/cousin. His family migrated out of the country after few years and I have never seen him since. Just thinking about him and people who are associated with him makes me feel sick. I didn’t know what he was doing to me, I was freaking 6. I remember him saying that his cousins suggested it to him who were alr grown ups. I felt what he was doing is wrong bc why would he want to hide but I was groomed and manipulated, I was just a kid and I was scared. I didn’t even know what he was doing. As I grew older, I realised that I was sexually assaulted and I was raped. I have never talked about this with anyone and it has been buried in side my brain for so so long that when I think about it sometimes or when I see things that remind me of him like when I see his family, it makes me doubt myself bc the memories are very light like a dream, I always wanted to not think about it and I have never shared about it, but the memories are there. It has affected my life so much but I just have to keep it within me bc of the way the society is. It is easier for me to support people who raise their voice against sexual assaults or for those survivors but I still can’t share my story openly. Even though anonymously, it feels good that I’ve finally shared my story. But personally, it’s sadly smth that I will probably take to my grave.

  • iiValsxmmer
    iiValsxmmerMiesiąc temu

    Bless these people

  • dweeds
    dweedsMiesiąc temu

    It's never the victim's fault, never

  • Vero
    VeroMiesiąc temu

    sorry to hear about their experiences. i hope they are well as this can really affect their mental state.

  • tele tubby
    tele tubbyMiesiąc temu

    "how to safely navigate intimate relationships and recognise jerks/abusers" should be taught in school.

  • aji koko
    aji kokoMiesiąc temu

    When women did not in the mood, Guys be like: Okay, I understand, I love you.. When men did not in the mood, Girls be like: What? Are you a b*tch? Are you impotent or something?

  • Rehana Khatun

    Rehana Khatun

    Miesiąc temu

    But the vice versa happens most of the time. Sad

  • Autumn Perry
    Autumn PerryMiesiąc temu

    I was raped at the age of 16 by an ex-partner of mine, right now still recovering day by day and I'm forever grateful to have someone new in my life 💕

  • Haylie Renée
    Haylie RenéeMiesiąc temu

    I feel like it’s my fault cause I didn’t try hard enough to stop it

  • Rehana Khatun

    Rehana Khatun

    Miesiąc temu

    Why am I supposed to stop it? A person who has been killed is never said that it's your fault since you didn't try to stop it. How ridiculous!

  • Zeth Thorn
    Zeth ThornMiesiąc temu

    😢😢😢😭😭😭😭😭😭 Words can't describe anything.

  • Idk I’m ugly
    Idk I’m uglyMiesiąc temu

    Thank God I am ugly and not a girl

  • Bree Chaplin
    Bree ChaplinMiesiąc temu

    Wetness is your body trying to protect you from injury. It's called self lubrication. Happened to me too.

  • Miao Kitty
    Miao KittyMiesiąc temu

    They are so brave. Respect & take care.

  • Katlyn Simmons
    Katlyn SimmonsMiesiąc temu

    Such a great video! Brought me so much comfort. Every survivor is incredibly strong and had so much wisdom. ❤️Sending you all forehead kisses through the screen 💞💞💞💞

  • Jae ruined my life
    Jae ruined my life2 miesięcy temu

    “It doesn’t stop him what he did to me” 🙏🏻

  • Olivia B
    Olivia B2 miesięcy temu

    His reminder of rape is about CONSENT. Gave me chill

  • OriginalWitch
    OriginalWitch2 miesięcy temu

    I experienced sexual attack, it was just one time and I told my mom and grandmother a few hours later. He was my step grand father, of my dad's family and I've always thought that it wasn't that big deal. Like I said it was once once and it was just touching. But every family member of my father, my aunts, auncles, cousins, his wife and even my dad didn't believed what I said. I wa sa liar, and since that day that i haven't seen them. I was eleven, and I felt so bethayed. Everyone just turn their backs on me. Then my cousin said it happend to her too, and her case was worse because it was her step dad, and even tried to kill herself. I felt like my case, my feelings wasn't that inportant. Now I'm seventeen and I have the support of my mom's family, my true family, but I don't like being touched, -I've never got a love partner because the thought of being hurt again makes me wanna run away. I really wish to be better.

  • Kel Santamaria
    Kel Santamaria2 miesięcy temu

    9:10 got me :(

  • Kathy Kathy
    Kathy Kathy2 miesięcy temu

    okay but that fact about victims having orgasms while the abuse happens fucked me up. I can't imagine how awful it must be being in so much pain (physically and mentally) but feeling pleasure at the same, that must be so traumatizing what the f*ck

  • 5 weenies

    5 weenies

    Miesiąc temu

    Exactly. Imagine how horrible they feel even though they can't control it. It's so fcked up, these abusers make me so damn angry.

  • skyla021
    skyla0212 miesięcy temu

    It makes me so furious that the guy couldn't report of literally assault and no consent because male sex is illegal in singapore and he feared that first. its just so frustrating

    YOLO DUDE2 miesięcy temu

    i really can't physically bring myself to even watch someone scream aloud and desperately say no so many times, how do these monsters we call rapists, go about their lives knowing they bring such trauma into other peoples lives like this

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    5 weenies

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  • nicallyn novak
    nicallyn novak2 miesięcy temu

    I was molested and raped by my step dad for about a year ( Maybe even longer I wouldn't remember from the memory loss ) It took me that long till I came forward Back then I didn't even know what what he was doing meant Anyways he's in prison for life and I'm still dealing with the trauma 👍

  • Rebecca Wilson
    Rebecca Wilson2 miesięcy temu

    This was very helpful to watch, and very emotional for me. I spent 5 years in a relationship with someone that raped and mentally abused me, 2 years later and I wish I would have left him sooner or reported him. I’m learning to be kinder to myself now, I can’t change what happened, but I can survive it.

  • Sarah Yohannes
    Sarah Yohannes2 miesięcy temu

    08:26 THIS!!!!

  • meep
    meep3 miesięcy temu

    ok i need help. i am a survivor of this and i feel like i need to share my story because i cant hold it in anymore so i want to tell my freinds because i dont want to hide anything from them, but do you think itll be the right thing to please let me know. my case went on for 4 years and this is the 2nd year that it stopped so i fell i need to help others by sharing my story.

  • Esther


    2 miesięcy temu

    Do whatever you feel comfortable with. Remember that whatever response you get, you are not the person who caused the response, your abuser is. Don't let anyone blame you for speaking out. It was your abuser's decisions that caused your pain. ♥

  • Sarita s
    Sarita s3 miesięcy temu

    I feel bad.

  • Petya Zaharieva
    Petya Zaharieva3 miesięcy temu

    As someone who was sexually assaulted, I can say, with a hand on my heart, I felt enlightened. All of these people, bless their hearts, they genuinely opened my eyes about a lot of things, broadened my horizons in a way. They all spoke of topics and things that I have never heard anyone talk about. Important things that have damaged me because of an understanding I, myself had to form. But now I know a lot of things people generalize about rape are absolutely false! So thank you! I needed that!

  • 08-Apurva Deshmukh
    08-Apurva Deshmukh3 miesięcy temu

    Low crime doesn't mean no crime Nice sentence I ever heard.

  • weepingwillows21
    weepingwillows213 miesięcy temu

    Okay so question from someone with no personal knowledge. Can someone tell me definitively what the difference is between molestation and rape?

  • kanubish
    kanubish3 miesięcy temu

    i as also a victim of sexual violance and im still fighting desperation because of it. NO means NO!!!

  • jujia7
    jujia73 miesięcy temu

    ..”did you ask for it?” you asked THAT as a first question? Are you fxxxx kiddin’ me?

  • EmberFae
    EmberFae3 miesięcy temu

    When I was 11, the male coach would watch the girls get dressed. I would usually go into a toilet stall and change before he entered the changing room, but one day, as I was heading to the stalls, he grabbed my arm and told me I had to get undressed in front of him. I refused and fought back. Luckily there were about 14 other girls in the changing room, so he couldn't do anything to me. But I wonder what he would have done to me if we were the only people there. Since I was very young my mother would talk to me about sex, consent and sexual assault. It's because of that, that I knew what he was doing was wrong. My parents were LIVID when I told them what was happening. My mother reported, but the school did nothing, they even went so far as to say that I was lying about it. That the coach would never do that.

  • 5 weenies

    5 weenies

    Miesiąc temu

    I'm so sorry this happened :(

  • Julie Obaid
    Julie Obaid3 miesięcy temu

    if a person stays quiet its because its actually hard to talk about it it isnt easy to report something like this

  • Mary Hale
    Mary Hale3 miesięcy temu

    This is why I lock my doors and stay In my room all day

  • Rehana Khatun

    Rehana Khatun

    Miesiąc temu

    That's not the solution either. You must speak up, if not for you, then for other girls (and boys). Remember, the abuser is to be caged, not the victim or victim-to-be

  • Angelina Siciliano
    Angelina Siciliano3 miesięcy temu

    I relate to the first girl the most

  • Nikita
    Nikita3 miesięcy temu

    The guy called it ‘sheathing’. I’ve also heard ‘stealthing’. The fact that people don’t understand is that that is rape. He did not consent to have sex without a condom. And the rapist must have made him think that he was going to use a condom.

  • Devlina Chowdhury
    Devlina Chowdhury3 miesięcy temu

    Some of the things spoken about them are exceptional. I'm so so glad I came across this video. So many people especially in this generation, needs to accept these things. CONSENT seeking needs to be normalized. These survivors are so wise and brave. Lots of love to you ❤

  • Speedyboba
    Speedyboba4 miesięcy temu

    If someone leaves their phone on the table, you should either ignore it, report it, or try and return it to that person. Not run and take the phone. Make more sense people?

  • Speedyboba
    Speedyboba4 miesięcy temu

    Victim-blaming is a piece of sheet. The other person should control themselves and not violate the person.

  • Speedyboba
    Speedyboba4 miesięcy temu

    If someone tells you that they’ve been violated. Almost all of the time, they have been. Believe them and help them get help if they want it. IT IS NEVER THEIR FAULT.

  • Speedyboba
    Speedyboba4 miesięcy temu

    The Indian women is so strong and I hope that all of them are doing better.

  • Speedyboba
    Speedyboba4 miesięcy temu

    No person is asking for it. It’s not the victim’s fault, because the other person should control themselves. No matter the situation.

  • eggcetera
    eggcetera4 miesięcy temu

    imagine being so f--ng desperate and shallow and lonely that you want to touch or rap- e someone just because you felt like it. one thing of unwanted s-x can turn into years of therapy, depression, PTSD, and anxiety. f--k sexual assaulters and rap-rs . f--k them.

  • KittyKittwoof
    KittyKittwoof4 miesięcy temu

    No isn't just a word. It's a sentence, a paragraph, a rule, a law, it's something that can change someone's life.

  • KittyKittwoof
    KittyKittwoof4 miesięcy temu

    *I'll try to share my story here* : I first got raped by my biological father when I was 4. That continued for 7 months until the neighbors called the police because they saw belt marks on my body. I was sent to the orphanage. Then three 20 ish men adopted me and all the things continued for a year until I was back at the orphanage. Then I was adopted by a couple who physically abused me for 2-3 months then again I was back at the orphanage. I am still suffering from PTSD after the first encounter 5 years ago. These survivors inspired me. Thanks a lot. I look up to the lady. She's stunning! You all are so brave! Respect!

  • Jacqueline Ang

    Jacqueline Ang

    Miesiąc temu

    God bless you! You are amazing.

  • wongbdjzjdnsjdb


    Miesiąc temu

    You are amazing. Seriously. We all look up to you. ❤

  • Esther


    2 miesięcy temu

    You are incredibly brave and strong, lots of love to you ♥

  • Haritha P Nair

    Haritha P Nair

    2 miesięcy temu

    You are the one who so brave here dear. Fighting....😊

  • Cesia C
    Cesia C4 miesięcy temu

    The first question was actually needed... there’s so many people that DONT understand the concept of consent and it’s absolutely idiotic of them. The way they answered the question made me hope that other people watching this wake up and realize what “wanting it” actually means. No is no and many people need to realize that. I hope that others see this question and the way the people answer it as a way to realize how messed up “you were asking for it” means.

  • Rachel St
    Rachel St4 miesięcy temu

    Lovely lady in the yellow, when I’m rich I’ll give you everything 🥺💗

  • selena black
    selena black4 miesięcy temu


  • Ava
    Ava4 miesięcy temu

    I love that they added a man into this. It really goes to show that sexual assault happens to men as well, not just women.

  • Spirit Guard1
    Spirit Guard14 miesięcy temu

    Im a girl. She was a girl. I was 9. She was 14. Now I'm 14, she's 19 now. I'm scared of everyone still..

  • Minh Huong Ngo
    Minh Huong Ngo4 miesięcy temu

    You know there was even no sex education in our education system, we have to deal with knowledge about periods and pregnancy, and maturity alone ourselves. We might get smacked if we ask our parents. I was molested a lot of times but the replies I got from the older women around me were "It's part of being a female", "You have the things to seduce men, so take it easy when some man wants it from you". Well, luckily I escaped that environment several years ago and fled to another country, even though I still got molested several times, but I learned how to protect myself. The only thing is that I'm traumatized of men, and now I'm only dating girls.

  • htttpginger
    htttpginger4 miesięcy temu

    When they claim it's a joke even when it wasn't actually a joke, they're trying to manipulate and gaslight you. Consent is not a joke and neither is the sexual assault/violence that one has experienced. Every victim is valid, no matter what.

  • Doves_Angels
    Doves_Angels4 miesięcy temu

    My sister was sexual assaulted by a man working in our shop for around 11 years he may be going to court it’s a joy to see her smile though she now has a loving Boyfriend that treats her right

  • Doves_Angels
    Doves_Angels4 miesięcy temu

    These always make me cry it’s so sad they had to go through if this does happen to you tell somebody!sending love from Scotland💕💕💕💕

  • Neha Rochwani
    Neha Rochwani4 miesięcy temu

    I planned to study and have some fun with my boyfriend but he didn't behaved as I thought..I went in was AGAINST my CONSENT...

  • Fatimah Bin yahya
    Fatimah Bin yahya4 miesięcy temu

    Devika looks so much like Rupi Kaur

  • Rehana Khatun

    Rehana Khatun

    Miesiąc temu

    Ikr! I thought it was rupi kaur at first

  • Miss Meew
    Miss Meew4 miesięcy temu

    It really haunts me with personal experiences, those of loved ones and this video. How often its someone you trust and that makes it so much harder to speak up. How you might have put yourself there and you were taken advantage of but yet its your fault for being there. I send love to those struggling.

  • Madison Marques
    Madison Marques5 miesięcy temu

    when she said that she didn't know it was wrong until much later that hit bc I was molested when I was 9 years old. I am now 14 and studying this video for an exam which I'm writing in 20 minutes. The 'assult' part of my trauma only hit me last year and kinda stuck with me now because ik it was wrong. Ik that there are people who have gone thru a lot worse than me and I am an ant and everyone with their stories are in an aeroplane but. i thought that maybe I should finally tell someone (the comments lmao)

  • Peppy locker
    Peppy locker5 miesięcy temu

    Taking a moment at how their bravery is giving thousands of people courage and comfort rn.

  • Jesus Hoya
    Jesus Hoya5 miesięcy temu


  • Sweet summer
    Sweet summer5 miesięcy temu

    I just wish the investigators were kind and thoughtful while talking to the survivors

  • Ocean
    Ocean5 miesięcy temu

    It's good that they had a guy in here too, it's not just girls who get raped.

  • Jaime Rozario
    Jaime Rozario5 miesięcy temu

    I needed this thank you

  • AttackOnFangirlGaming
    AttackOnFangirlGaming5 miesięcy temu

    When watching this video, I got my trauma triggered when I was watching it and I imagined myself answering these questions as if I were there and I was crying so much and thinking about it. Because of how strong these people were from sharing there story and it was hard that we, as survivors had to suffer because of it, but it’s the way that we see it. I was in 6th grade and sometimes in middle school too and it’s complicated. I didn’t bother to report it because I was young and confused and also scared. Then like in 2019 when I was 17 turning 18 I blamed myself because I didn’t report it because it was so many years ago that I didn’t think anyone would believe me or even my own family I was scared to tell them until 8th grade freshman year. I was angry so many times at myself and at my assaulter because he was attractive and he got away from it. I couldn’t cope with it later on until I had sex and toxic sex with my ex multiple times to cope myself, and in 2016 I was self harming and suicidal because I was groomed when I was younger , into child stuff and older men. Even until high school or today, because I wanted to find validation or something that to feel love or any feeling. I have so much to say but it’s so hard to write it all down. Its a lot and I want other survivors to know that they are strong whether to report or not report and get through it. They can still see that life is awful but it’s also beautiful too in their eyes and to those survivors who couldn’t handle the suffering and decided to say goodbye to the pain that they are also brave, and finally be the wind. They are seen by survivors even though they can’t see it anymore, they are legacy that we have to prove to survivors that we can get through this and help others who suffered too, won’t be alone

  • Nicol Pang
    Nicol Pang5 miesięcy temu

    So brave. Thanks for sharing your stories

  • Aishah Hussein-Smith
    Aishah Hussein-Smith5 miesięcy temu

    The person who asked the first question need to be taught a lesson on the legal concept of consent 🤦🏽‍♀️

  • Mari Chat
    Mari Chat5 miesięcy temu

    i felt this but im still afraid to say it im so happy that im watching this people coming out with their stories it makes me feel seen and loved

  • Harsha Tan Ravy
    Harsha Tan Ravy5 miesięcy temu

    These people are true warriors. I could never imagine going through it.

  • Kim Jasmine
    Kim Jasmine6 miesięcy temu

    Some preachers say people want to commit suicide because of their own sins, these cases definitely have proven otherwise. There might be some cases but much more cases because of outside causes. Speak out victims. Right, not everyone responds in the same way including other trauma cases beside being sexually abused. 2. Why can't they immediately complained? You have to first digest what has been taken placed. 3. Dealing with confusion in the aftermath shocking feelings. 4. You became numb and your mind was just trying to cope with what has been going on and your feelings at that time. 5.You do not know what to do especially you are not in a familiar place and you are alone and no one is on your side. It is a terrifying experience plus some people are thinking they are doing the right thing. All fingers are pointing at you.l

    KIMBERLY GARMAN6 miesięcy temu

    The man at 2:55 is so wise.

  • HERA
    HERA6 miesięcy temu

    This is a genuine question : Does it really matter for male and male intercourse to have protection? It's not like they can get pregnant, right? I'm seriously curious about this.

  • Curls and Flowerss

    Curls and Flowerss

    6 miesięcy temu

    Yes, it matters because male and male intercourse can also lead to sexualy transmitted diseases such as HIV. Wearing a condom is not solely to avoid pregnancy but to avoid STDs as well.

  • myhaircharm _ir_hair_
    myhaircharm _ir_hair_6 miesięcy temu

    More dan one account 🤐😒

  • Bird Lady
    Bird Lady6 miesięcy temu

    5:19 hit me differently.

  • Fariha Mohamed Hilmy
    Fariha Mohamed Hilmy6 miesięcy temu

    I feel bad for those victims out there who got sexually assaulted. They don’t deserve all this

  • ToOmUcHbUtTaH _
    ToOmUcHbUtTaH _6 miesięcy temu

    Imagine the attackers watching their victims in this video. I really hope y'all feel ashamed and disappointed. I don't even know what to say. The audacity to do these things disgust me, how dare you, honestly.

  • Sarah Neal
    Sarah Neal6 miesięcy temu

    that is true how the victims feel blame even the it was the aggressor that touched or invoked reactions from the victims. I love how they all bring such good valid points to why no one has the right to your body even a partner

  • Sarah Neal
    Sarah Neal6 miesięcy temu

    that's so true, just because your body has a physical reaction, its doesn't mean that the person wants to be touched or raped. Its a biological reaction to that we have yet isn't intended. I also hope that all of the survivors have your perpatrators arrested

  • Ayaat s.
    Ayaat s.6 miesięcy temu

    it wasn't your fault. stay strong

  • Rachel Lee
    Rachel Lee6 miesięcy temu

    The word "no" and "don't do it" was said for a reason. For those people who said that these people and other people who faced sexual violence are what they are asking for and therefore blaming them. STOP. *JUST STOP* Rape and sexual assault is not funny and it is not something you should blame on the victim. My friend, age 14, was raped by his father when he was 6. His friends were blaming on him because he "moaned". No, he was shouting and screaming for his father to stop. My other 'friend', age 16. He raped a girl which was close to me. The girl told me and i confronted to him. He told me: "She was asking for it." "She was having pleasure, clearly she was liking it." A whole fight happened when it was breaktime. Two teachers had to restrain me. I was shouting, crying and insulting him. I was suspended from school and the 'friend' was expelled. As a person who is a close friend to the victims that is displayed in this comment, i just want to say: Don't ever, EVER, blame the sexual assault case on the victim who was assaulted, this taboo statement is not ok, you are literally bringing down someone. They might get diagnosed of depression and PTSD. So please, just stop.

  • Jita Mandal
    Jita Mandal6 miesięcy temu

    This video literally made me cry. I'm one of those people who got sexually molested so many times and now I'm at some point where I feel like I lost my own self.

  • Gina's Review
    Gina's Review6 miesięcy temu

    "No I wasn't...because I was 7." this is NEVER normal. That's disgusting & NEVER allowed. To anyone from a child to a grown up.

  • Federica Piottoli

    Federica Piottoli

    2 miesięcy temu

    She meant it as "how can you tell me I was asking for it when I was literally a child who doesn't know what "it" is?"

  • tyra robinson
    tyra robinson6 miesięcy temu

    the fact that there are people out there that blame the victim, just proves that this world is so bent backwards

  • Evgenia
    Evgenia6 miesięcy temu

    usually, the monsters who rape or murder are those close to the family's victim,, fact.

  • C Skog
    C Skog6 miesięcy temu

    Everyone is so articulate - it's clear they have thought deeply about this issues. I'm glad that there is a male speaker - it's courageous for him to speak out and clearly state when his boundary was crossed and what started out consensual became assault.

  • 2muchXneutron
    2muchXneutron7 miesięcy temu

    It's sad.. And disgusting to see some humans behave in such a degrading manner...

  • pang kexin
    pang kexin7 miesięcy temu

    7.31 this part breaks me a lot, just showing how much different sexuality suffer

  • L
    L7 miesięcy temu

    I survived too.

  • dani
    dani7 miesięcy temu

    i needed this video. it’s 5 am and i’m struggling with validity. i was assaulted by my boyfriend at the time at a party. we were both cross faded - pot and alcohol - and he forced himself on me. i was inebriated beyond the point of talking, let alone moving. i was lucky enough to eventually get him off before he penetrated but i’m still dealing with it almost exactly two years later. i have been struggling to feel as if anything was wrong. he tried to convince me it wasn’t.

  • Nicoleee Hernandezzz
    Nicoleee Hernandezzz7 miesięcy temu

    I like how there were males in this video as well. People talking about males getting sexually assaulted needs to be normalized. So people can see that males too, get sexually assaulted in any way, shape, or form. I also give an applause to the males and females as well to even have to rethink about what happened to them.

  • Nga Nguyen
    Nga Nguyen7 miesięcy temu

    "Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and the God of all comfort. He comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any kind of affliction, through the comfort we ourselves receive from God". 2 Corinthians 1:3‭-‬4 CSB

  • Jasmine Yeo
    Jasmine Yeo7 miesięcy temu

    this video just makes me feel that i’m not the only one living through all my life from sexual assault. I was ten years old when it happened. And the perpetrator was my string ensemble conductor. I was a amateur cellist and at first, he always threw me with sarcasm because i wasn’t good in my playing. But eventually, i got better in my music skills and he allowed me to his private lesson. And that was when the assault happened. I was so young back then, I am so confused and shocked and at the same time, i felt so much pain. But I couldn’t respond that I didn’t want it. The assault was never reported and he got away with it. It was truly a really traumatic experience. I always have flashbacks to that incident and never forget how the perpetrator look like.

  • Ben Smith

    Ben Smith

    4 miesięcy temu

    I'm sorry that happened to you

  • Jamie Morales
    Jamie Morales7 miesięcy temu

    I was drugged by my housemates and sexually assaulted by my ex boyfriend..saart test came negative & im totally shattered..i just cant believe this..please guide as i badly want to prosecute the culprits

  • Ana DD
    Ana DD7 miesięcy temu

    God it hurts so much to hear this. I am so very sorry, I hope all of this survivors find peace and are blessed with happy lifes.